welcome to my world... ;)

Looking back at my old posts I realise that
1. I haven't posted in a long, long time.
2. Though there are solid beliefs/feelings/opinions that I have on certain things that will likely never change, a lot about me as a person has changed and I feel that I should talk about some of these things.

( Yep I finally learnt how to do a cut woot woot :PCollapse )
I really could use some advice as there is a lot going on in my life right now and I'd like some sort of indication that people are willing to listen. There's a few reasons for this, first of all I'm not sure if people are active on lj anymore and it's been a long time since I've posted an entry. Second of all I know it's time consuming for you guys to read and we all live busy lives so yeah all that jazz.
Please comment if you would be willing to read such entries and give advice.
Thanks in advance :)

Today I saw 5 horrifying videos via the RSPCA and Animals Australia showing the treatment of Australian cattle being exported while alive overseas to various facilities in Indonesia. These poor animals had their eyes gouged out, their tail bones broken, broken legs, were whipped and kicked in the face, they were dragged across the ground and one was even jumped on by a worker then trodden on by another animal as the workers forced it to walk across the other conscious animal's body.

Bill's story http://vimeo.com/24323153


Dudley's story http://vimeo.com/24323199
Arthur's story http://vimeo.com/24323145

Brian's story http://vimeo.com/24323166


Tommy's story http://vimeo.com/24319651


Please sign the petition here to be sent to parliament TOMORROW:
http://www.getup.org.au/campaigns/animals/live-export/ban-live-export (I apologize, it only allows Australians to sign)

Also join the RSPCA in their campaign against live animal export by sending Julia Gillard a message here:
http://www.banliveexport.com/#takeAction

Tweet @JuliaGillard @LiberalAus @TonyAbbottMHR @RSPCA
The tags to use are #BanLiveExport and #4Corners. Link to the petition and the other vidoes so other tweeters can see.

Thanks for stopping by and if the petition is successful I will certainly give you an update :)
Kat
p.s. #BanLiveExport IS TRENDING ON TWITTER! THIS IS FANTASTIC!! :D

Ok so there was this scene on Gossip Girl this week where a drunk Chuck forced himself on Blair, she made it clear that she wanted him to get off her. He got into a rage and smashed a window above Blair’s head, causing glass to fall and cut her cheek. She screamed and ran away.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFfeRQwHM4Q (embedding disabled by request unfortunately)

Clearly you don't need to watch the show to see that this is abuse and not at all a healthy couple. Well this is what the writers had to say:
"I think it's very clear that Blair is not afraid in those moments, for herself. They have a volatile relationship, they always have, but I do not believe-or I should say we do not believe-that it is abuse when it's the two of them. Chuck does not try to hurt Blair. He punches the glass because he has rage, but he has never, and will never, hurt Blair. He knows it and she knows it, and I feel it's very important to know that she is not scared-if anything, she is scared for Chuck-and what he might do to himself, but she is never afraid of what he might do to her."

Well this is just irresponsible and trivializing abuse! Blair screamed and ran, she was scared despite what the writers seem to think and it was CERTAINLY abuse.

HERE ARE THE SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AS LISTED BY PEREZ AND http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Abusive_Men_Top_10_Signs_of_an_Abusive_Man.html
1. "Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?"
Last season, he not only traded HER BODY to his uncle for a hotel, but then blamed her by saying it was her choice to go. Check.
2. "Does your partner act excessively jealous and possessive?"
"You'll never marry anyone else. You're mine! You're mine, Blair!" Enough said. Check.
3."Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property…"
The video above. Check.

I SHOULDN'T EVEN HAVE TO MENTION CHUCK'S HISTORY BUT I SHALL:
In the pilot he tried to rape 2 characters. In an epsiode he tried to blackmail a character for sex. In another episode he had sex with an underage character while she was in a vulnerable state. He proposed to another character moments after sex with the underage character. He sold his girlfriend for a hotel! He is both emotionally and physically abusive as shown in the video above.

WHAT WE WANT:
1. For the interviewers to apologise and acknowledge that abuse DID occur, (especially if the characters are continuing their relationship).
2. For the CW to air the PSA that Leighton and Ed recorded about the scene
3. For the Gossip Girl producers to outline the signs of an abusive relationship and to ensure viewers know that you shouldn’t stay with a partner who shows these signs, that this is an unhealthy and destructive relationship etc.

HOW YOU CAN HELP
You can help by tweeting @GGWriters @Anthologist @JoshSchwartz76 and @CW_Network. The tags we are using are #saveblairfromchuck #abuseisnotromantic #abuseisnotok #stopblamingvictims #getreal #stopthisrightnow #facepalm #whathaveyoudone #RME and #NOTOK .

Also email/contact these guys (Gilt and CW have already replied me! :D)
http://withbloodiedfeet.tumblr.com/post/5182744428/if-youre-angered-by-josh-safrans-comments-re-the

THIS IS AN ARCHIVE OF LINKS/REFERENCES THAT I AND A FEW FELLOW CAMPAIGNERS MADE YESTERDAY :)
https://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Farakha.tumblr.com%2Fpost%2F5231364543%2Fmedia-and-fan-reaction-to-josh-safrans-not-abuse&h=e5dac

P.S. I dunno how to embed but this is perfection in relation to this topic! It reads "signs that you're in an abusive relationship" and shows scenes where each sign has been exhibited!
http://i54.tinypic.com/262ta8g.jpg

THANKS FOR READING! :)
p.s. only just worked out how to use different coloured fonts today but it wouldn't let me do it too many times grrr :P

in this post i would like to talk to you all about a big part of myself that i'm A. not ashamed but B. i dont publicise it to everyone i see, im a pretty private person.

i'm bisexual.
i've known this since i was 8. i truly believe that i was born that way and that it wasnt just social factors. im not bi to "follow a trend" i certainly know some people claim to be bi to get attention or try to cover that they are homosexual but bi people do exist.
i believe that gay, straight and bisexual people exist. bi-curious is a term that i dont believe in because its basically used as a cover by people who dont believe in bisexuality to explain an interest in bisexual behaviour. i do agree that for some bisexuality is a 'phase' but at the same time i dont agree because you're either bisexual or you're not at the end of the raging hormones etc, and yet this 'phase' can be convincing to ones self that they are bi when the end they arent. i however think i am definatly bi because ive known i was attracted to both sexes since i was 8 and for girls, most puberty changes happen at around the age of 13. the only people who know that im bi are my boyfriend of a year and almost 2 months now, ben lee (who was my best friend before we finally took the plunge into a romantic relationship), my little sister amanda who is 16(i have two little sisters though)my very tightknit group of close friends, and unfortunatly my ex-best friend (who was my friend for 6 of the 19 years of my life so far, and her boyfriend who changed her into the horrible person she is today.) i want to clarify a few things:
1. i love my boyfriend very much and will never cheat on him with a male or female.
2. i am attracted to both sexes though males a bit more than females (yes that is possible see below) and if i had never dated ben, i would be dating a male. my family is catholic and presbyterian, i am catholic and i wouldnt want any controversy about my partner in my life. that's not to say that i would rather be dating a female right now, that's definatly not true.
3. i will never come out to my parents. im not ashamed of being bi but i dont want them to be ashamed of me.

anyways i thought that since there are so many assumptions and misconceptions about bisexuals that i would explain what i feel and believe about them.

1. bisexuals are just confused people who decide to be greedy
this is certainly not true. bisexual people dont crush on everyone, we have our 'type' like straight and gay people do. mine for example is brown eyes black hair and muscular but not massive (ben fits nicely into that category lol) so no we dont pounce on everyone we see. we have about the same pool of partners as any other person, just some of ours are the same sex to us. also as mentioned before there are different preferences within being bisexual. some are attracted to both sexes equally, some are attracted to both sexes, but one more than the other.

2. bisexuals are confused, bisexuality doesnt exist
sadly and please dont throw tomatos at me for saying this but i honestly think that bisexual people have it tougher than gay people. some dont believe that we even exist,some members of the gay community refuses to accept us and well we're not straight either so where are we supposed to fit in? tv and film can largely be blamed for the many preconcieved ideas that society has about bisexuality.

3. bisexuality is all about sex
umm no it couldnt be further from the truth. yes boobs are hot and so are penises but like any other couple we love our partners for their personality and the way they make you feel more special and loved than ever before. id also like to point out that im a virgin and ben and i being both religious are planning to not lose our virginities before marriage. another assumption is that bisexuals have overly powerful libidos...well everyone has their moments when they just want to relieve themselves or have fun with their partner or whatever, just cos we like both sexes doesnt mean we are twice as horny and have sex twice as much...

4. a bisexual person can never be fully satisfied with one sex
this infuriates me because it is COMPLETELY false. not every bi person wants a threesome (the idea has intrigued me but id never do it) bisexual people like any other person do have the ability to be faithful to our partners (though naturally some people are jerks straight gay or bi...) the fact that some gay guys assume a bi guy is going to automatically cheat on him with a woman is just offensive and untrue. we love men and women because they are just so DIFFERENT. a guy with boobs is not hot. a guy is. a woman is. (i dont have anything against transexuals btw, that's just my personal opinion)men are stong, protective, warm, have sexy deep voices and just an incredible body shape as well as that unique sense of humour. women are caring nurturing, have gorgeous curves and more emotional. see the massive distinction? if ben became feminine i think i'd faint lol :P

5. bisexual people have sex with their friends because they cant distinguish a friendship from a romantic relationship.
this is a touchy subject because its true for some and not for others or just a phase for some a they discover themselves. generally a person who is exploring the full extent of their newfound bisexuality does have problems with this but it soon subsides. i did have problems with this attraction vs likeness thing but yeah i grew out of it. i was very young at the time, but for quite a while now ive been able to easily seperate the two and ive had no problems for years now.

oh and heres a tip, dont ever ask a bi person how far they've gone with a girl because that's private, asking that is very intrusive and who says that anyone in the general public should know the most private parts of someone's life?

thanks for reading this, feel free to ask any questions you like, ill answer any queries. i know that in general people dont know much about bisexuals at all.

ive attached a lot of images of ben and i lol its sort of like our photo gallery of our relationship so far. (note the images arent really in order lol) also the last one is the first pic ever taken of us. embarassing yes but i love it :P

http://www.twitter.com/KA4charitywater

follow meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :D


and support a cause with socialvibe too ;)
xoxo

If any of you guys use twitter then you should tweet to help "Charity: Water" or another cause of your choice:)

On February 12, 2009 (that's today and tomorrow depending on where you live :P), people in more than 175 cities are gathering in a worldwide event called Twestival, an evening of fundraising across the globe.

Wanna help? go to www. socialvibe. com/twestival and tell everyone else you think would be interested to do the same :) then choose your city/city closest to you.
Sign up and post your badge (see everybodysmile. livejournal. com to see what the badge looks like and my myspace page to view and/or add the app) $1 will be donated to your local Twestival to benefit Charity: Water, or whatever other cause you may choose to support :) As always, as long as their badge is up, they’ll continue to raise money that will help bring clean, safe water to the more than one billion people who are currently without it.
(that's for "charity: water" )

Myspace and facebook are also part of the twestival so if you don't have twitter it doesn't matter :)
xoxo
Kat :)

hey guys so i recently started supporting "charity: water" through SocialVibe and i think it's a great cause so i decided to share it with you all :) if you want to learn about "charity: water" visit http://www.charitywater.org/whywater/if you decide you want to help (YAY!) visit http://www.socialvibe.com/
thanks so much :D
xoxo
kat :)

hey all my name's kat and you may know me as loveloveme on fanforum. i've been a long time lurker and i finally decided that i'd get an lj! (bout time eh?) i can do graphics and icons and i also write fanfiction. i'm 18 (today is my b'day actually hehe) and a year 12 student so i may not be able to post too often but i shall try my best. happy posting!
xoxo
kat 
p.s. i tried to do a cut but apparently i don't know how. little help please? :)