Ok so there was this scene on Gossip Girl this week where a drunk Chuck forced himself on Blair, she made it clear that she wanted him to get off her. He got into a rage and smashed a window above Blair’s head, causing glass to fall and cut her cheek. She screamed and ran away.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFfeRQwHM4Q (embedding disabled by request unfortunately)
Clearly you don't need to watch the show to see that this is abuse and not at all a healthy couple. Well this is what the writers had to say:
"I think it's very clear that Blair is not afraid in those moments, for herself. They have a volatile relationship, they always have, but I do not believe-or I should say we do not believe-that it is abuse when it's the two of them. Chuck does not try to hurt Blair. He punches the glass because he has rage, but he has never, and will never, hurt Blair.
He knows it and she knows it, and I feel it's very important to know that she is not scared-if anything, she is scared for Chuck-and what he might do to himself, but she is never afraid of what he might do to her."
Well this is just irresponsible and trivializing abuse! Blair screamed and ran, she was scared despite what the writers seem to think and it was CERTAINLY abuse.HERE ARE THE SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AS LISTED BY PEREZ AND http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Abusive_Men_Top_10_Signs_of_an_Abusive_Man.html
1. "Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?"
Last season, he not only traded HER BODY to his uncle for a hotel, but then blamed her by saying it was her choice to go. Check.
2. "Does your partner act excessively jealous and possessive?"
"You'll never marry anyone else. You're mine! You're mine, Blair!" Enough said. Check.
3."Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property…"
The video above. Check.I SHOULDN'T EVEN HAVE TO MENTION CHUCK'S HISTORY BUT I SHALL:
In the pilot he tried to rape 2 characters. In an epsiode he tried to blackmail a character for sex. In another episode he had sex with an underage character while she was in a vulnerable state. He proposed to another character moments after sex with the underage character. He sold his girlfriend for a hotel! He is both emotionally and physically abusive as shown in the video above.WHAT WE WANT:
1. For the interviewers to apologise and acknowledge that abuse DID occur, (especially if the characters are continuing their relationship).
2. For the CW to air the PSA that Leighton and Ed recorded about the scene
3. For the Gossip Girl producers to outline the signs of an abusive relationship and to ensure viewers know that you shouldn’t stay with a partner who shows these signs, that this is an unhealthy and destructive relationship etc.HOW YOU CAN HELP
You can help by tweeting @GGWriters @Anthologist @JoshSchwartz76 and @CW_Network. The tags we are using are #saveblairfromchuck #abuseisnotromantic #abuseisnotok #stopblamingvictims #getreal #stopthisrightnow #facepalm #whathaveyoudone #RME and #NOTOK .Also email/contact these guys (Gilt and CW have already replied me! :D)
http://withbloodiedfeet.tumblr.com/post/5182744428/if-youre-angered-by-josh-safrans-comments-re-the THIS IS AN ARCHIVE OF LINKS/REFERENCES THAT I AND A FEW FELLOW CAMPAIGNERS MADE YESTERDAY :)https://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Farakha.tumblr.com%2Fpost%2F5231364543%2Fmedia-and-fan-reaction-to-josh-safrans-not-abuse&h=e5dac
P.S. I dunno how to embed but this is perfection in relation to this topic! It reads "signs that you're in an abusive relationship" and shows scenes where each sign has been exhibited!http://i54.tinypic.com/262ta8g.jpgTHANKS FOR READING! :)
p.s. only just worked out how to use different coloured fonts today but it wouldn't let me do it too many times grrr :P